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May 26, 2014

Saying goodbye

Last year in April, I was on vacation in Brazil when my sister Maria Olímpia was diagnosed with cancer. On May 10th this year I went back there to say goodbye to her. I was lucky enough to be by her side when she still was conscious. I talked to her, I helped taking care of her. Those few days are so precious to me now. I came back to America on May 17th, and last Friday, May 23rd, after a long and painful battle my beloved sister passed away.


She was a teacher, a writer, an intellectual, the oldest sibling in a family of ten. She was always present  in all family matters, she was there for the joys and the sorrow, always taking care of each one of us. She was an intelligent and sensitive writer, she wrote various forms of literary art, such as novels, short stories, poetry, articles, and essays. Her writings about our family has touched even distant relatives, so special and powerful they are.


I was not there for the wake and burial, in Brazil they happen just a few hours after the passing. I stayed at home, alone, reading the delightful letters she wrote to me, and looking at a few photos I have from her, along with comforting words her friends and relatives left on her facebook
Buying and reading books was one of her greatest joys, as well as writing her own stories.
Lately, very few things give me comfort, calming and peace than taking pictures, so taking a few pictures and writing this post was a way to say, once more, thank you Maria Olímpia for having been part of my life.


31 comments :

  1. Dear Regina I'm very sorry for your lost, hope she'll rest in peace...

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    1. Thank you very much for your kind words sweet Ahu.

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  2. Meus sentimentos. Que Deus dê conforto ao teu coração e a tua família.

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  3. Oh Regina, I am so sorry for your loss! What a wretched time you have had. No words can ease the pain of a beloved sister passing, and I am not going to pretend that I know how it feels because quite frankly I do not. I still have both parents and my one and only sibling, a dear sister. How fortunate you were to sit by her side and comfort her when she needed it most. It must have been a very painful emotional experience. In time I think you will enjoy her letters and her books once again and smile...but for now dear Regina, I wish you strength in this time...Sharon xxx

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    1. Thank you so much dear Sharon for these kind and comforting words.

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  4. sevgili regina çok üzüldüm.huzur içinde uyusun..

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  5. Regina, meus sentimentos pela passagem de tua irmã. Amiga, sei por experiência própria que a morte de alguém querido e amado doí muito mas garanto que vc ficará bem porque as lembranças, a amizade, o carinho e o legado deixado prevalecerão. Desejo muita força e paz para teu coração.
    Abraços com carinho.
    Sílvia

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    1. Como é bom receber sua visita Sílvia e ler esse comentário profunda, delicado e verdadeiro. Muito obrigada amiga.

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  6. Regina, I am very sorry for your loss. I understand a little bit how you're feeling... my Grandma passed almost a year ago in Brazil and I was not able to attend the service and be with my family. Thankfully, since I moved to US I visit my family every year and the last time I saw my Grandma I had said goodbye... not sure why, but I did. And, to be quite frank it was comforting to me knowing that I did have a chance to say goodbye.
    I think time is the best healing to your pain....
    Sorry again,

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    1. Dear Priscila, indeed it's very comforting that I've been there while she still could recognize me and talk to me, those momentos are priceless to me.
      Thank you very much for your kind words.

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  7. Querida Regina, parabéns pela irmã que vc tem (tem sim, pq jamais deixará de ser). Um beijo, um abraço e o meu carinho pra você!!

    Luiza Mallmann

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    1. Muito obrigada querida Luiza, ter você aqui e ler seu comentário me fez muito bem.

      Um grande abraço pra você.

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  8. Hi Regina, if you have time while you are here, try and visit Charleston Farmhouse the home of Vanessa Bell and Duncan Grant. You will love the house and the gardens. It is situated in Lewes, East Sussex. Another quaint place to visit is Berwick church which Vanessa and Grant painted in the town of Alfriston just a bit further down the road. Sharon xx

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  9. Oi, Regina!!
    Que bonita a sua homenagem pra sua irmã. Imagino o quanto ela devia ser amada, e continuará sendo, pois não será esquecida. Que belo reconhecimento!!
    Espero que Deus conforte o seu coração e também os dos seus familiares, pois creio que só Ele é capaz de nos consolar.
    Muita paz!!
    Abraços
    Maria Tereza - www.ateliedamaite.blogspot.com

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    1. Muito obrigada Maria Tereza por essas palavras de conforto, me faz muito bem ver saber que um vínculo foi criado entre mim e algumas das pessoas que conheci na Casa de Retalhos.
      Muito obrigada de coração.
      Um grande abraço

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  10. Regina Querida!!!!
    Já ensaiei para escrever tantas vezes sobre as coisas lindas que vejo por aqui e via no Casa da Retalhos, mas agora, não posso deixar passar esse momento tão doloroso.
    É sempre muito difícil encontrar palavras que confortem o nosso coração numa hora tão difícil como essa.
    A ferida está muito aberta e ainda dói muito.
    "Dói, de tanto medir a distância, de tanto saber que não vou lhe tocar, além da lembrança"
    Palavras do seu conterrâneo, Beto Guedes.
    Mas que bom termos as lembranças.
    Principalmente para lembrarmos dos momentos especiais, da pessoa especial e da vida abençoada que sua irmã teve.
    Vamos continuar celebrando a memória dela aqui no Molly Mell, afianal de contas esse blog foi criado em homenagem a ela.
    Um beijo grande no seu coração e um abraço muito apertado e demorado.
    Águida

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    1. Querida Águida, que palavras tocantes essas que escreveu pra mim, me sinto abençoada em ter tido a chance de ter contato assim com pessoas como você, que mesmo não me conhecendo pessoalmente é capaz de me dar tanto carinho.
      Muito obrigada querida.

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  11. Dear Regina, what you make loving tribute to your sister through these few lines and pictures ...... remember the good times is what is important and allows over time to make the absence less painful....
    Lolotte.

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    1. Thank you so much dear Lolotte, it's very thoughtful of you to leave such a touching comment. I do appreciate it, a lot.
      Thank you again.

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  12. Uma perda dificílima, mas ainda bem q ela lhe deixou a sua escrita que com certeza a manterá junto de si. Um beijo e força para continuar a ser feliz.

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    1. Muito obrigada querida Isa, e pensar que tudo começou quando eu estava no Rio e você foi tão prestativa e amiga naquela ocasião.

      Um grande abraço pra você.

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  13. I am ever so sorry to hear about your loss... She was a beautiful little girl.

    Hugs,

    Rosa

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    1. Thank you very much for your kind words Rosa.

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  14. Dear Regina, I'm really touched by this story. Your sister must have been a great person. I'm feeling very sorry for your loss. Simone

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    1. Thank you so much dear Simone,

      After days away from the internet, I'm coming back, and can't wait to write a post about your uplifting and pretty art.

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  15. Olá Regina! Algumas perdas, infelizmente, são permanentes. Receio que este é um caso assim. Lamento. Beijos.

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  16. I am so sory for your lost Regina...

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    1. Thank you my friend, you are always so sweet and thoughtful :))

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